Monday, October 5, 2009
In the last addition of Parent's magazine there was an article in there about children turning three. Lucky for me, I have a two year old that is turning three tomorrow. It caught my attention so I had to read it. It was called "The Terrible Threes". The quote that was on the first page caught my attention: "Two-year olds have a well-deserved rep for defiance and tantrums. But as I found out firsthand when my daughter turned 3, they haven't corned the market on bad behavior." I just started to remember recently when Aiva turned three and boy, are we in for a challenge with Ana. All I remember is when I went in to have Ana, Aiva was a very nice, well behaved little girl. The day after Ana was born, our world changed! I'm not sure what clicked in Aiva but she changed! Ana was born on October 6 and Aiva's third birthday was October 10. I would have to agree with the author of this article that three is the worst age yet. Now I know I haven't hit the teenage years so I'm only speaking from my experience with Aiva. The author says that it should go this way, "The terrible twos, the trying threes and the freaking fours. The two's are only the beginning!" She says that toddlers and preschoolers go through six-month cycles that alternate between pleasant and make-you-want-to-pull-your-hair-out. With Aiva, I don't really remember the pleasant cycle so I'm hoping for good things with Ana. The author says that toddlers get frustrated because they know what they want but they don't have the language skills to tell anyone. We're really trying to work with Ana on this. It seems to have helped but it's in those times that I don't have the time or the patience (check out lane at the grocery store) to teach a lesson. I've found that I need to have a plan before I go into these situations with my kids. This is the exact reason why I don't take them with me to CVS anymore. No plan needed...they just don't get to go! So the truth is, according to the author and ME, is that while kids start declaring their Independence at 2, they're shouting it by 3 and yelling it through the megaphone directly into your ear by 4! The author suggest you give your three year old two options. I just need to be happy with whatever option she chooses. By doing this, they feel like they're the one calling the shots and in the end, makes them happy. So with that being said, bring on the threes! If I did it once with Aiva, I'm sure I can get through it with Ana!